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Christie Brinkley, Peter Cook Reach Divorce Settlement on Fox News

Christie Brinkley’s divorce is a classic case that illustrates why we cannot afford to see divorce injustice as a men’s rights issue only.

Christie is finishing up her fourth divorce.

Why? One might be tempted to judge Christie harshly on the basis that the one thing common to all four failed marriages was Christie. But, that view is superficial in that it does not look into what else might be common to all four situations. Nor does it look at what has impacted each of her four failed marriages.

Christie is an exceptionally famous, attractive, strong, and winsome woman, and she may tend to attract the typical alpha-male and overshadow or intimidate other men. But, most of us are not psychologists, and we don’t know Christie personally, so we don’t have any knowledge to draw from except that which is in the media and what commonly happens in marriages that break.

Related to the alpha-male propensity or attraction factor is the co-dependency factor. That does not imply Christie is needy or dependent. In fact we read in the news of her incredible strength as a survivor. However, people who experience repeat failures in marriage often do so because they continue to marry people with the same kind of problem — a problem that contributes to the demise of each marriage.

But, why? Addiction. A person who marries an abusive drunk, for example, becomes accustomed to the lifestyle. They learn to cover up for their loved one’s shortcomings. They have learned how to deal with it. But what they have not learned is how to deal with being married to someone who does not have that problem. Life’s routines are different.

Peter Cook Has Affair and Nitpicks Christie

Fox News reported, “In the latest dispute, Cook complained that Brinkley had failed to deliver him their children’s passports in time for a school trip to Egypt last year and later suggested that the supermodel be subjected to anger management counseling.”

Notice now Cook amplifies a relatively common and small offense on Christie’s part in failing to deliver their children’s passports on time. Suppose Christie’s offense had been very serious, such as playing the whore on her marriage as Cook did. Do you think Cook would hesitate for one moment to blast it out everywhere over the news and bring it up in court at every appearance?

Notice also how Cook refers to Christie’s supposed need for “anger management counseling”. Is cook a clueless idiot? You cannot have an affair with a teenage girl and expect your wife not to be hurt deeply by it. No. Christie does not have an anger problem. She would have a problem is she did not become angry over this.

No, the evidence in this case, even from a distance, seems very clear that Christie was the faithful one, the spouse with sincere love, with strength to remain faithful, with a sense of responsibility and love for her children. And what Cook apparently did, in my opinion, borders on pedophilia.

What Does No Fault Divorce Law Mandate?

So, now that we are in a nation where most states have unilateral no fault divorce laws, should Christie be robbed of her home and her children so the children could be placed with Cook and some extramarital lover and allowed to sleep in Christie’s and Cook’s marriage bed? Should Christie be robbed of a significant amount of her income to pay spousal and child support to Cook?
Should Christie be forced to sell off the property for a property settlement and be forced to pay taxes on the increase in value of the property? Should she be forced to pay substantial sums of money to an attorney for this privilege in hopes of being protected from further losses?

What should be Cook’s reward for choosing to violate his wedding vows to Christie? What should be Cook’s reward for depriving their children of their stable, loving home life for an affair?

Who is at Fault?

And who were the ones at fault here? Do any of America’s judges, senators, representatives, or members of the state assemblies have the intelligence or integrity or backbone to ask this necessary question? Or is it all to be washed under the carpet with a no-fault divorce while the children and the faithful suffer? How many ex-politicians continue to get fat off their retirement checks without getting off their lazy incompetent butts during their time of office and doing something about this problem? Incompetent cowards.

One million marriages per year end in divorce. Correction. One million people each year decide that their own integrity is not sufficient for them to honor their vows. One million people each year decide they love their affairs more than they love their children. One million people per year decide they would rather stand before God a liar and a whore than a faithful, loving, sincere spouse and parent. And, when those one million people per year decide they want everyone else to pay the price for their sins, those one million people per year are committed to turning America into a whorehouse of adultery backed up by pimps called politicians, attorneys, and judges.

Cry for Justice

No. This is not an issue of men’s rights. This is an issue of justice for all.

If we allow ourselves to be divided in the pursuit of justice along gender lines, we will be conquered continually. We cannot allow ourselves to believe justice for one gender requires injustice for the other gender. This is also true for divisions by race, religion, national origin, height, weight, medical condition, and so on. When justice is violated for one person, it is violated for all.

And when we sit and wait for someone else to take action, our laziness and cowardice are the biggest contributor to this injustice.

Why not call your state assembly now? Your senator? Your representative?